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You are here: Home / Family / 12 Ways To Help The Family Of A Patient In Hospital

12 Ways To Help The Family Of A Patient In Hospital

January 17, 2018 by Sandy 6 Comments

Help Family Patient In Hospital

 

My mother spent 3 weeks in hospital before she passed away.

Three very long weeks.

While she received wonderfully compassionate care from the doctors and nurses at the hospital during this time, this lengthy stay hospital stay was something my family and I had not faced in many years.

Although we wouldn’t have it any other way, spending so much time at hospital with mum, took a toll on my family. Aside for the (obvious) worry for mum and her well-being, there were many things we all had to deal with that one doesn’t tend to think about – until faced with this situation.

Generally, it is the patient in hospital who garners all the help, support, and compassion (and rightly so!) but, close family members may need help, especially if their loved one’s stay in hospital is a long one.

Similar to that famous music lyric that goes “you don’t know what you’ve got ’til it’s gone”, you also don’t know what it’s like to spend countless hours at a loved one’s bedside, until you have sat in that (uncomfortable) chair.

We learned a lot during mum’s three weeks in hospital, from our own experiences, and from the actions of our very thoughtful friends and relatives, who provided our family with much-needed help and support during this time.

Here are…

12 Ways To Help The Family Of A Patient In Hospital


Give The Gift Of Food or Parking

A lengthy stay in hospital may cause a financial strain on family members who must spend money on hospital parking (which is outrageously expensive!). This doesn’t account for the additional expense of food costs for family members grabbing snacks or meals at the hospital cafeteria, or fast food restaurant. Picking up the tab for parking (monthly passes are often available), or buying the family a restaurant gift card, can go a long ways to helping with these unexpected expenses.

Home James!

Not everyone has a car or can drive but, everyone with a family member in hospital needs a way to travel to hospital. Offer a family member to ride with you, or gift them transit passes or taxi chits. This may reduce the stress and monetary burden they may feel when trying to sort out transportation to the hospital.

Get Cooking

Life goes on despite the fact that family members may be spending long days at the beside of a sick family member. After mum had been admitted to hospital, one of my best friends, Susan, called me up. She asked me if I might be able to stop by her house on the way home from a day at the hospital. When I arrived at her home, Susan greeted me with a large cooler fully stocked with delicious homemade dinners, one fresh for that evening, and the rest frozen for future suppers. I nearly burst into tears. This was one of the most thoughtful gifts I had ever received. To know that I could spend all day with mum at hospital, and come home to a homemade meal that simply needed to be heated up in the oven, was huge relief for me at such a stressful time.

Germ Warfare

Hospitals are a hotbed for germs, and the last thing the hospital needs is for a visitor to bring additional germs into the hospital environment when they visit. You don’t want to be responsible for making a patient, or their family member, sick. Carry a small bottle of hand sanitizer with you to use before entering the hospital. Additionally, most hospitals offer dispensers stocked with hand sanitizer. You can usually find these at entrances to the hospital and emergency room. Above all, stay home if you are sick yourself!

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The Kids, The Dogs, And The Elderly Family Member

While the focus is on the patient in hospital, other family members may still need taking care of. Offer to babysit the kids when needed, or take them for an overnight. Dogs and other pets may need care. Perhaps they just need someone to check on them during the day, or perhaps they need longer term care while their owner is in hospital. Elderly parents may need assistance with daily living if their regular caretaker is in hospital. A very kind family friend drove my father back and forth to hospital several times to visit mum, leaving us free to stay at hospital and not worry about transportation for dad. Remember, elderly family members may also need help with grocery shopping, errands, household chores, and appointments while their caregiver is in hospital.

Lend A Sympathetic Ear

The stress of having a very ill family member in hospital can be overwhelming for some people. Dealing with being a caregiver, interacting with doctors and nurses, not eating/sleeping properly, and trying to hold down the fort at home, is tough to handle for weeks on end. Sometimes people just need a sympathetic ear to get things off their chest at times like this. Show your support. Offer to meet for a coffee or chat by phone. A little time with a friend may be all a family member needs to refresh, recharge, and get back to being a great caregiver.

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Stop And Smell The Roses – At Home

As beautiful as flowers look in a hospital room, they are not a practical gift to give to a patient (nor are they allowed in the ICU). Flowers could trigger an allergic reaction for anyone in the hospital room, and they need to be watered (something the patient can’t do and something family members may overlook). In addition, consider the effort it takes a family member to transport the beautiful arrangements home in one piece – without spilling water all over the car! A better idea – have a beautiful bouquet of flowers delivered to the patient when they arrive home.

Come From Away

The second week Mum was in hospital, a very special cousin of hers called us to ask if it might be okay if she hop on a train and come visit. We said “YES!”. That night, we slept in our own beds knowing that Mum was in good hands with her cousin by her side. Offer to stay overnight with a very ill patient if allowed by the hospital. It may be a greatly appreciated gesture.

Comforts Of Home

When someone is taken to hospital by ambulance, things like pyjamas, slippers, personal items, outdoor clothing and footwear are often forgotten at home. Offer to stop by your friend’s home to pick up needed items. Offer to lend them things you have on hand. It doesn’t seem like it at the time but, having these items at hospital can become important if a prolonged hospital stay is warranted, or the patient is suddenly discharged from hospital. My father’s sudden release from hospital, late on a frigid winter’s night, caught me off-guard. I arrived at the hospital to find my father ready for me to take him home – wearing only a light shirt, pants, and socks!

Don’t Overstay Your Welcome

A visit from a friend can be great for both a hospital patient and their family, however, a visit can become too much of a good thing. Don’t overstay your visit. A patient may need rest. Family members may want time alone with the patient. Offer to leave without being asked. A patient will tell you if they want you to stay.

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A Few Of Their Favourite Things

Having a few favourite things at hospital can be a comforting and welcome distraction for any patient. Help the family out by bringing some things you know the patient will enjoy, and things the family may not have thought to bring to hospital, such as:

  • CD/MP3 player
  • Tablet
  • Ear plugs
  • Lip balm
  • Hand sanitizer
  • Playing cards
  • Favourite treats (if allowed)
  • Books and magazines

Don’t forget the caregiver! A small treat can be a big “pick me up” for a weary family member.

Homeward Bound

One of the most difficult times for a hospital patient and their family is when the patient is well enough to go home. This is a time when the patient – and family – may need help the most. They may need help with daily chores, running errands, or getting to medical appointments. Offer concrete help – specific things you can do to help the patient and their family.

Have you got any great suggestions for helping out the family of a patient in hospital? We’d love to hear them! Leave a comment!

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Filed Under: Family, Favourites, Health Tagged With: health, help and advice, Hospital Stay, nursing, patient in hospital, visiting hours

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  1. Sally Bowen says

    January 17, 2018 at 4:03 pm

    Outstanding article. So well expressed

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  2. Sandy says

    January 17, 2018 at 4:15 pm

    Thank you so very much, Sally! I really appreciate your comment!

    Reply
  3. Vacinity says

    January 17, 2018 at 8:20 pm

    Hello Sandy… First off… I’d like to say I’m sorry about your mom’s passing. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Mom’s are pretty special human beings and by your writings I can tell she was a very special person to you!
    There are so many articles on the internet with lots of help information but of all the years of reading… I have to say I have never… ever… came across an article such as yours!!! Thank-You for writing all that you did with such detail. You put your heart into your writings… I can tell!
    I am printing out your article and placing it in my First Aid Kit this weekend! I need it for the just-incases! Your article was above board with so many things we don’t think of… sure some think of getting some food together by vender… lend an ear… or say… if you need anything… call me etc. But to be truthful… somethings I didn’t even think of!
    I have shared your article on Facebook and I know I have friends who would appreciate your article!
    And I told them I was printing it out this weekend. ..
    Thank-You again for writing such a good artical!
    God Bless and Take Care

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  4. Sandy says

    January 17, 2018 at 8:40 pm

    Oh my goodness! Thank you so much, Vacinity, for such a lovely comment! Thank you for your kind words as well. I was very lucky to have such a great mom. She was always one to help others so I like to try to carry that on by writing posts like this in the hopes that I can help others with what I write. I’m so glad you found a lot of value in this post and thank you so very much for sharing it with your friends. I am flattered that you even printed out the post for the “just-incases”. I love that word btw! Thank you again for stopping by and sharing all your thoughts – it truly means a lot to me! xo

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    • Vacinity says

      January 17, 2018 at 9:17 pm

      Hi again Sandy… I’m very happy to know my words to you helped! I too had a mom that helped a lot of people and I too wrote a lot of articles to help people. I had a support site I ran for over 10 years and since I spent a lot of time helping people… sometimes through the night…well… long story short… it took a lot of time away from my mom and after she passed I regreted the time I spent away from her even though she understood I was at home on the internet helping people and she was very proud of that… but soon after she passed I went into deep depression for many years. I know I should start the support group up again… but I have several ailments and body pain that I’m working through to be able to function better that I have to set it aside until then.
      I already received several replies from friends that found your article easing their mind saying that they could have used your information different times!
      I hope your article reaches many people across the globe because it is needed!!!
      Hope you have a great evening Sandy and keep-up the great writing… I know your mom would be proud!

      Reply
  5. Sandy says

    January 19, 2018 at 8:28 pm

    Wow! Good for you! Yes, I’d feel the same way as you but, I’m sure your mom was super proud of you. I’m so sorry to read you went through a deep depression. That must have been awful. Yes, you need to concentrate on your health first, by the sound of things. If you don’t have your health, you don’t have anything. I sure hope you start feeling better and that you can get back to doing what you do so well. Sounds like you have a gift for helping people. Thanks again for sharing my article…and for those kind words about my mom. She was always my biggest cheerleader.

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